Penis Size MATTERS

Dildos are the ultimate do-it-your-own-way sex toy. Unlike a vibrator, a dildo does not move on its own. In fact it does not do anything you do not make it do. On the plus side, you can make it do all sorts of things that human body parts cannot. You can also pick any shape and size that pleases. Many people would consider dildos to be self-explanatory. Manufacturers probably agree, since they never include an instruction manual. But if you are curious about using a dildo, and you are not sure where to start, the steps below offer the basics of how to use a dildo, and leave plenty of room for personal interpretation.

1. Choose wisely

Because dildos only do what you make them do and do not bring any extra motion of their own, choosing the right dildo is key. Get something too big and no matter how excited or committed you are, it is just not going to work. Pick a shape (or even color) that turns you off and you may find it hard to get into using a dildo. If you are not sure about what size you want, think about other things you have used for penetration (fingers, penises, carefully washed vegetables, etc). If you are using a dildo because you have never had penetration sex, you should start with your fingers or a very small dildo. When you are used to the dildo, you will want a bigger one, so be prepared to have a bigger one available, when you are used to the small.

2. Lubricant required.

You always need to use a personal lubricant with any sex toy for penetration. Water-based lubricants are good for almost everyone. (If you are using a dildo made of silicone, do not use silicone-based lubricant.) Put the lubricant on the dildo and use your fingers to put lube both outside and inside of your body. Thicker lubes are easier to use with dildos as they do not slide off the toy right away. If you are using a dildo for anal penetration you will probably need to replenish the lube at some point.

3. Anal vs. vaginal dildos

All dildos can be used for vaginal penetration, but only some dildos are safe for anal penetration. Dildos that are safe for anal use will be smooth and seamless and will have a flared base to prevent them from slipping up into the rectum. As mentioned above, you shouldn’t use the same dildo in the vagina and the anus unless you are using condoms or can boil the toy in between uses. Read more about anal sex toys.

4. Inspect your dildo.

Before you use your dildo for the first time, take it out of its package, wash it well, and then check it carefully. Look for any tears or sharp edges. If your dildo is supposed to be non-porous, look for any holes or bits missing in the body of the dildo. If there are any flaws, return your dildo before you use it.

5. Start on your own.

Even if you are planning on using your dildo with a partner, it’s a good idea to check it out by yourself first. You’ll feel less self-conscious and/or you can really concentrate on how it feels for you without being distracted (for better or worse) by a partner. Make sure you have a little time and enough privacy before getting down to business.

6. Turn yourself on first.

Before you try to use your dildo for the first time, get yourself turned on however you would normally. If you are feeling awkward or distracted it can make penetration more difficult, so being relaxed and aroused can make your first time with a dildo smoother.

7. Start slowly.

Before you insert the dildo, see what it feels like when you rub it on the outside of your body. Use it to massage and stimulate your external genitalia first (either the vulva and labia or the anus). Think of it as if you’re teasing yourself, building up to the penetration. Once you begin to penetrate yourself with the dildo, be sure to start slow. Notice how it feels, and how it’s different than using your own or someone else’s body parts for penetration.

8. Play with rhythm and speed.

Once you are comfortably using the dildo, you can experiment with different rhythms and speeds. The great thing about a dildo is that it will do exactly what you want it to, it doesn’t get tired or get a leg cramp, and you can stop and start whenever you like. Notice the difference between a slow and steady movement and a fast and erratic movement. See what you like and what works for you, and make some mental notes that you can share with partners in the future.

9 .Explore your depths.

If you are a woman, you can try to put the dildo deeper and deeper, slowly to get used to having it deep. This is a good training got future sexual intercourse with men with big penises. Practicing yourself with your dildo will make real sex more pleasurable and you will enjoy and crave sex with well-endowed men once you had your big dildo filling you up.

If you are a smalldick, practicing putting the dildo deep in your anus is a good training for future, when you might be the bottom for real men who want to fill your anus with their big penises.